it's true and to use the argument, you embarrassed me and you hurt me and that i'm hypocritical because i'm hurting you when i'm telling you not to hurt other people is skewed.
you calling someone by an identity that they are born with and can't control and me confronting your bigot joke is two totally different things.
people make this so personal. "you embarrassed me" "you hurt me". look, i would've done it to anyone. you caught me at the time of day where i just didn't want to take anymore and your thoughts seemed illogical to me. for you to create a post about how men think that you have a sign over your head saying "sex me" then to say "happy birthday fggt" to someone else just doesn't make sense to me. do you not see a correlation?
then to call me chauvinist because i'm embarrassing you? me calling you out is not chauvinistic. just because i identify as a feminist, doesn't mean i'm not allowed to call women out on their ignorance.
lastly, to use guilt to make me feel bad about you isn't going to work. to say "i can't believe someone i used to like could hurt me so much". this is a coercive and manipulative way to get what you want and i think it's complete and utter bullshit.
i'm not trying maliciously hurt you, i would've done it to anyone of my friends. i'm sorry that you feel bad but this is bigger than you and me. when i addressed your comment, i wasn't targeting you, i was targeting heterosexism, homophobia, sexism, masculinity, and the system that oppresses people because of their identity.
no kidding...it's important to call one another out when we feel belittled or oppressed--especially when it comes from allies--but to assume that it's malicious, especially from someone like you who does indeed make a solid effort to make the world a safer and saner place...that's just looking for an argument, or projecting some other issue i suppose. i call shenanigans! keep on livin!
ReplyDeletei also do call shenanigans! i feel that their might be other issues arising out of this person's argument..
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